And Now, We Do something About It

I saw myself in a mirror last night.

Yes, I know, I do that every morning to shave, comb my hair and put in my contacts. But this was different.

I took the almost-12-year-old to dinner at a Chinese restaurant. Mom’s out of town. I didn’t want to cook. Dinner was okay. This particular place is better for carry out than dine in.

But when we stood up to go, that’s when I saw my reflectin in the wall if mirrors, and thought “Oh…my…”

I looked horrible.

Look, I’ve known all my life that I’ve had weight issues. It was only a short time in and after college that I was in pretty good shape.

And I have a constant quest to lose weight, get in to shape. But it’s a battle I’ve been losing for years.

That changes. Right now.

The losing of the battle ends. The losing of the weight begins.

I’ve tried most “solutions” with little or no luck. I’ve done Atkins, the Grapefruit Diet, the Six Week Body Makeover, Right Size Smoothies and more. They’ve all had a measure of success, But none that lasted.

Over the years I’ve spent enough on diet remedies and gym memberships to buy that new wardrobe I was lamenting yesterday.

So, no more “magic” fixes. Change begins today.

I am setting a goal to make one positive health/weight related change in my life every day. I’ve actually done pretty well in limiting fast food and soda since the first of the year. This morning was the third time I’ve been through a drive through since January 1. That’s an improvement because it wasn’t the third time since Monday.

But that’s it. That’s today’s positive change. No more fast food. No more soda.

It’s going to take some discipline.

My plan is that if fast food is my only food option, I don’t eat. Same with soda.

I’ve done some research, and am continuing to do more on nutrition and healthy eating plans. And I’m discovering how the diet industry has really wanted to keep me fat. See the above spending money reference.

But this is not a diet. It’s a lifestyle change.

I’m going to keep a running journal…no wait, not a running journal, I don’t run. But I’ll track my progress here.

I’ll not give a starting weight. But I’ll tell you how many pounds I’m down. Or up.

So, here goes.

Dressed for Success

This is an update from my Crisis of Style in November.

Everyone knows that old adage “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.”

My problem is that the job I want is writing from home. Or the beach. Or from my home at the beach. For that I need jeans and flip flops.

But my problem is I have to go through a job where jeans and flip flops aren’t appropriate in order to get to the job I want.

I’m okay with my current day job. It’s by far not my dream job and one I would never have imagined I’d be doing for, gulp, almost 15 years now. But it’s secure and pays well.

And in 905 days I can take early retirement.

That’s the plan anyway. To retire and write full time. Or at least part time enough to make ends meet.

Still, for now I have to make the day job work. The better position that I’m in when retirement actually does come the easier it will be to make that move.

That’s why at the beginning of the year I started wearing a tie to work every day. I have no illusions about a promotion or a raise. It’s simply something I’m doing to make me a better employee, or at least to make me feel like I’m one.

When I worked in Washington, DC a suit was standard attire. And even for several years after I moved to Richmond, I had a closet full of suits, shirts and ties.

Gradually, however, my office shifted to more casual attire. When that happened I stopped replacing the dress clothes and opted for more business casual attire. Nothing wrong with that.

At least there’s nothing wrong with that until you decide to change your dress habits for work.

I still have some of the suits I used to wear. But they’re woefully out of style now. Funny thing is, they apparently made men’s clothes a lot smaller in the 1990s.

So, I’m finding it a challenge to show up in shirt and tie every day. I’m not even trying for the suit every day.

A couple of weeks ago I found myself without a clean dress shirt on a Friday. Dry cleaning is picked up and delivered on Fridays (as well as Tuesdays). That’s when I made the decision to keep Fridays as business casual. That’s how this whole mess started anyway.

But it as a little disturbing to find that I no longer have enough dress shirts to make it through two dry cleaning cycles. I used to be able to do that with just white shirts.

Then there’s the shortage of ties. I still have a few ties bought at Nordstrom in DC some 20 years ago. A couple of them are classic enough to work today. I’ve added to that over the years, so I have a decent selection. But I also have a rather extensive collection of novelty ties.

There was a time when I would have worn Charlie Brown or The Cat in the Hat to work. But I’m beyond that now. So, while those ties have their place, around my neck in the office is not one of those places.

Complicating this, as if it it wasn’t complicated enough already, is the fact that I want to, no make that need to, lose a good amount of weight. Reality is I could drop 30 pounds and be comfortable in a couple of old suits. At least for a while.

I am not, however, inclined to go out and rebuild a wardrobe in my current size. What kind of incentive is that? If I feel too comfortable in my clothes, I’m going to be less inclined to want to do something to make them fit better.

All this is coming from someone who used to measure the value of things in terms of how many pairs of Levis he could buy with the same amount of money. These days I have one pair of comfortable Levis in my closet.

So I’m working on that style thing.

While I’d like it to be a world of denim and sweaters, I see some suit shopping in my future.

Just as soon as I get back from the gym.

Without question, I need to lose weight. But in the process I need to update the wardrobe.